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 They always said thay love and hate are just one line to each other. I used to hate someone until I fall for him, I also used to love someone until I hate him so much. Oh well, relationship is a very complicated thing. Love is just a simple four letter words, but the meaning behind it is so deep and complicated. Oh well, I am not having any huge problem in my relationship now, maybe a small problem, or maybe I think it's a small problem?? I talked to my psychologist today, she said it seems like I am on track with most of stuff in life. When she asked me about my relationship, this issue is making me feel sad. I told her that I think I am fine with my bf, we do not talk much everyday, we are not so lovey dovey, we have a gap in between, I even told her about the issues of my bf blaming me for not making the ice. Moreover, when I had a punctured tyre the other day, he didn't willing to help me to bring the spare tyre to me.
My psychologist said that in a relationship both parties must be caring, sharing and have balances interaction. The problem with my relationship is I am the one keep giving and he is the one keep taking it. She asked me something...
Psychologist: What do you really want in your relationship? Do you deserved all these?
Me: Ermm.. Seriously, I have no idea.
Psy: Do you think this man will make you happy in the future? Or are you happy now?
Me: Hmm.. another tough one. I think I am happy, or maybe not. I am happier when I am with my friends.
Psy: Think about these questions after your exams. =)
The conclusion is, she said that I am not having a life and I am not being in a relationship. A bf should brings the gf out once in awhile, they should go out and have a life and not staying at home all the time. She said that if my bf doesn't willing helping me if I am in trouble, then he doesn't worth anything at all. If he blames me for not making ice or doing things for him, then he doesn't worth anything at all too!!! She also mentioned that it needs two people to make a relationship functioning well, the problem here is... I am the one making the effort, but he is not. Sigh~~~
She said that it's obvious that this bf can't give me the relationship that I always wanted as we are brought up from different background. I came from a family where my parents are lovey dovey, I never see them quarrel, they love each other so much, they go out once in awhile for celebration and etc. As for him, he came from a family where his parents don't go out that much, not lovey dovey at all, no celebration, his father simply treats his mother like shit... So, she said both of our expectations are different. Maybe I will find someone better who is compatible with me. But this one is definately not compatible...
She also suggested that I shouldn't stay with him just because I pity him or feeling guilty. She said even LOVE alone can't make me stay in the relationship coz this relationship sounds so dead to her. In order to be happy, I must find someone who will appreciate me, love me, and is compatible with me. She said relationships are important as it supports us throughout our life. They are significant in improving our health and satisfaction. Do I have satisfaction in this relationship? The answer is No!
Oh well, she thinks so easy meh... If it's easy for me, I would have let him go since two years ago, but I didn't! Anyway, I will consider the whole thing and see how it goes. If can, then good for me. If not, too bad loh! =) Main priority now... my studies!! She does apologized to me for bringing up the relationship issue with me as she knows that I can't study well if I am troubled by relationship problems. But I told her that this semester is my critical sem, I will not think too much about my relationship until I finish my exams!! *wink wink*
Labels: love, psychology, relationship
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Monday, November 06, 2006 
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